Of Course My Family Supports This… DON’T They?

Posted on November 9, 2011 by Carl Simmons

When have you told your family about something you really wanted to do—but they didn’t (and/or didn’t want you to do either)? How did that work out? What might have helped them—or you—make the right decision?

Sometimes we look back at disagreements we’ve had with our families and laugh. Sometimes they’re so painful that we still don’t want to think about them. Both examples, however, show us that our families’ support for what God’s trying to do in our lives can be critical.

To put it bluntly: If we can’t even communicate to those closest to us how much God is in this vision, and how much we need their support, how can we honestly expect anyone else’s support?

Depending on our situations, we might not be able to expect our families to support or even understand what God’s calling us to. But our spouses, our children, and our extended families can still serve as a reality check. They may not see what God’s doing in our lives, but they see us. And no matter how painful or seemingly unfair their concerns might be, there might well be a grain of truth to them. Now’s the time to deal with those grains.

Sometimes we just need to help those we care about see what we’re seeing. The unknown is scary. We wouldn’t have spent the last three Wednesdays addressing that if it weren’t true. So let’s discover how we can help our families see and embrace what God’s putting on our hearts.

But first, let’s look at a biblical example of one family venture gone terribly wrong. Open that tab, read Genesis 19:1-4, 9-38, then think about this:

• What’s motivating each family member here, and what went wrong for each of them?
• Why didn’t Lot’s family just listen to him—let alone to God’s angels?

Think about your family, and the “God things” we’ve been trying to sort out together the past several Wednesdays. Now, think about sharing that “God thing” with them—or about what you’ve shared with them already. What parts of your personality or behavior might cause family members to respond “Yeah, right” to what you’re sharing? Do they have a point? If so, why?

Let’s look now at a very different example—one which, in fact, involved Lot’s extended family. It’s in Genesis 22:1-18.

• What do you think is going through Abraham and Isaac’s heads here?
• Most of us don’t have family members as compliant as Isaac, even when they love and want to support us. How can we help them deal with the fears and hesitancy they still might have?
• Which of the two situations we’ve looked at seems most like yours? Why?
• What do you think you and your family are going to need to sacrifice as you follow God’s vision? How easy or difficult will it be for all of you to believe that God will provide what’s needed for your sacrifice?

We’ve probably all heard the phrase, “If Momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.” But this ain’t just about Momma (or wives). It could be our husbands, children, parents, or anyone else we’re close to. This is an issue that literally hits close to home. In a sense, you’re asking your family to show even bigger faith than you have—because they’re not only needing to trust God; they also need to trust you.

And this can get complicated in a hurry. We want to please God. And we want our families to be happy. Even the Bible can give us some seemingly conflicting messages about this. Let’s look at some of those messages, and try to make some sense of them.

• Matthew 12:46-50
• Luke 14:25-33
• 1 Corinthians 7:29-35
• Ephesians 5:28–6:4

• How do we reconcile these passages? How can we follow Jesus and honor our families?
• What does that look like to you right now? What specific actions will you need to take to make it happen?

Got your keys handy? Go get them. Hold up the key you consider to be your  most important one.

Keys do a lot of things. They open things; they lock things away and protect them; they turn things on and off. I’d like you to think about the key you’re holding, and what God’s asking you to do in relation to your family? Do you need to open up and share more of what’s really on your heart? Protect what God’s showing you from the criticism of an unbelieving family? Or just get in the car and take a long drive with your spouse or child who’s afraid of losing your time and attention?

Whatever comes to mind, hold up your key and pray silently about it for a minute. Ask God to help you be obedient to Him in every part of your life. Ask Him to help your family to understand and support what He’s showing you, and to help you see our yown blind spots. Ask Him to help you do everything in your power to love your family and to keep seeking God’s will no matter what the reactions might be, and to have the patience to wait for your family, if that’s what’s needed—and that they’d have  patience with you, if that’s what’s needed.

May you all keep following God’s lead no matter what fears or misunderstandings there might be in the meantime.

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Going to a Better Place… Together

Posted on November 7, 2011 by Carl Simmons

How better to start this week’s devotional than with the words of Jack Nicholson? View them here, then think about this:

• Who inspires you to be a better person?
• Is it because of his or her actions, because you want to make that person happy or proud… or both? or something else?

Over the last few Mondays, we’ve been examining where God has put us and what kind of heart He wants us to have toward the people and situations He’s put us in. So today, we begin drilling a little deeper into specifics—what we can really do to become the hands, the feet, the heart of Jesus to those we encounter everywhere in our lives.

Brian Jones, in his book Getting Rid of the Gorilla, observes, “Disciples do not just believe differently, they behave differently. They stick out. They provoke. They cause people to think. Disciples jar others to evaluate their own lives, often without uttering a word. Disciples point people to the kingdom of God simply by their behavior alone.” As we do that, we’ll discover how can we help—and maybe even inspire—each other as members of the body of Christ.

So open up that new tab, read through 2 Corinthians 3:17–4:1, 2 Corinthians 4:6-11, and Hebrews 4:14-16, and consider these questions:

• Externally speaking: How do (or should) Jesus’ and Paul’s examples here inspire you to be more like Jesus?
• Internally speaking: How have you seen “the Spirit [make you] more and more like him” (2 Cor. 4:18)? Think of your own examples here.
• When has God’s light shone through you, despite your circumstances? How have those times changed the way you see God? yourself?
• On the other hand, when have you had a hard time seeing God at work—when you thought, “yeah God, you could’ve kept that one”? Why do you think God let you go through it anyway?

God has allowed us to experience some incredible things—even if they may have seemed hard at the time—and God wants us to share with others what He’s done and to give Him the glory. There are probably also some things in our lives that we wish God hadn’t allowed. But if we haven’t already seen proof, God can and will use everything for His good, even those things that seem lousy and unexplainable to us—if we’ll trust Him.

“God has yet to bless anyone except where they actually are, and if we faithlessly discard situation after situation, moment after moment, as not being ‘right,’ we will simply have no place to receive his kingdom into our life,” Dallas Willard says in The Divine Conspiracy. “For those situations and moments are our life.”

As we’ve experienced God’s glory, God has already equipped us to help others to draw closer to Him—more than we know. Jesus told us, “Truly I tell you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven. Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them” (Matthew 18:18-20, NIV).

Let’s consider how that’s already played out in our lives, and where God might want to take it from here:

• When has God unexpectedly brought one or two “others” into your life who helped you grow closer to Jesus? How did God use them?
• How does (or would) having other Christians you can trust in your life help you to grow in Jesus in a way that “going it alone” can’t?  

God brings people into our lives that we weren’t expecting to help grow us. Begin looking at the people you’re with that way. Learn from each other. Inspire each other. Pull each other up. And find ways to connect outside of our time here to do that as well. And then, watch what God does with it.

And here’s an assignment: If there’s someone you can have this discussion with, get with him or her and talk through the following three questions together. You might have answers to all three of them; you might not have answers for any of them right now. Either way, start exploring them together:

What things am I doing right now that God has clearly led me into—and how am I doing with them? Has God been impressing you to be a better parent, a better spouse, a better steward of your time or resources? Has he called you to come out of a situation or habit that’s hurting yourself or others? Where’s God put you? And how are you doing with it?

What things might God be leading me to do now? What do you think God’s calling you to do right now? How has He been speaking to you lately? And what do you need to confirm that it really has been God prompting you?

What things might stop me from doing what God is leading me into? What’s holding you back right now? Disobedience? Fear? Self-consciousness? Uncertainty? A lack of experience in an area you nonetheless feel God calling you into? What’s holding you back from fulfilling God’s will in your life right now?

After you’ve discussed your answers with each another, take some time to pray for one another, and to set aside a time during the week to touch base with one another, whether that’s phone, e-mail, texting, whatever. May God bless you this week, and may He bless your new journey together!

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Lay Down Your Addiction, part 2

Posted on November 4, 2011 by Carl Simmons

Last Friday, we addressed the need to lay down the things we hold against others. Today, let’s start dealing with the logs in our own eyes—beginning with the things we know we struggle with. We like to compartmentalize the word “addiction,” but the fact is, the mindset that comes with it is actually pretty pervasive in our lives.

There’s another old-fashioned word for what we’re talking about: lust. And it doesn’t have to be the sexual kind (although it might well be). We want what we want and we want it now. And we keep on wanting it—because it wants us, too. That’s the power of lust, or addiction. We believe it will satisfy a need God can’t, or won’t. But if God won’t satisfy it, it’s not a need. We’re the ones who have elevated our desires to that status. When we cease to trust God, we begin to welcome the lusts of our own hearts.

Jesus didn’t fall for that trick. And therefore, Jesus knows the way out. Because He’s been there. “Since the children have flesh and blood, he too shared in their humanity so that by his death he might break the power of him who holds the power of death—that is, the devil—and free those who all their lives were held in slavery by their fear of death… Because he himself suffered when he was tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted (Hebrews 2:14-15, 18, NIV).

Because Jesus went through temptation for us, came out the other side, and then paid the price for our own failure anyway, He is able to deliver us. “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted,he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.” (1 Corinthians 10:13-14, NIV).

Lay It Down Today

In our first installment on addiction, we talked about the usefulness of spiritual discipline. We’re going to practice one of those disciplines right now: Silence. Pulling ourselves away from the world helps us to hear God more clearly. It’s a way to remove ourselves from the constant compulsive flow of the world that pulls us so easily into temptation and addiction. And, it’s a way of telling God (silently, of course), that He takes priority.

Psalm 46:10a is a pretty popular phrase we throw around for this: “Be still, and know that I am God.” (I’ve always like rephrasing that “Shut up—I’m God.”) But I want you to start your time of silence by reading all of Psalm 46. Because it’s all about trust, and the fact that God is worthy of our trust. Then, take at least 10 minutes to close your eyes and be totally silent before God. Your mind will probably keep buzzing for at least the first few minutes. That’s OK. Give the buzzing time to die down. Let God speak, and quiet yourself down enough so that you can hear Him.

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Small Groups, Big Questions

Posted on November 3, 2011 by Carl Simmons

Small-groups megachurch pastor. Author. Encourager. Bill Mallonee fan. He’s all this and more.

This week’s Other Voice shifts back to our blogroll, and to be honest I’m not sure why I haven’t called him out sooner.

My Buddy Rob Bentz® is pastor of small groups  for Woodmen Valley Chapel, which at last glance was the largest church in Colorado Springs not called New Life. 🙂 We first met a couple years back, as we were preparing to revamp the already-long-dormant-but-still-rife-with-content smallgroupministry.com (it’s a long, sad story).  For the less than year it was permitted to finally flourish, Rob served as one of our two bloggers.

And lemme tell you, the boy was a quick study. The proof of this lies in the fact that churchleaders.com (who used a bunch of SGM.com’s material to get their own site started — with our blessing, mind you) picked him up after our untimely demise. You can find him elsewhere as well.

And in the months immediately following The Great Purge, Rob was also quite the encourager, to the point of sending useful job listings from the myriad Christian organizations in the Springs (none of which, unfortunately, panned out). You’ll find that kind of encouragement on Rob’s blog as well, Created for Community. You’ll also find good ideas for small groups, as well as a willingness to deal with the harder questions (his Monday entry is one such post).

Enjoy, and we’ll meet up again tomorrow.

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Counting the Gain

Posted on November 2, 2011 by Carl Simmons

We continue our series on God-given vision today. And it’s been awhile since I’ve used a Lord of the Rings clip, so let’s fix that. As you watch, put yourself in this scene and think about the mission you’re feeling called to right now. Then reflect:

• Who in this scene do you most feel like right now? Why?
• What do you think of Bilbo’s words that close this scene? Do they comfort you, unsettle you, or something in between?

Last week, we looked at how we can get caught up in wanting something so badly—even if it seems right to us—that we can talk ourselves into thinking it’s what God wants, too. This week we head in the opposite direction: How can fear and doubt—whether it’s about what God wants, our own motives and capabilities, or something else—cause us to miss, or even run away from, what God wants?

Fear of the unknown—or for that matter, of re-experiencing something painful—is something we all face. And because the future is unknown, it’s easy to make it into something even scarier than it really is.

In his book Love Is an Orientation ,Andrew Marin observes, “Fear of the ‘what-ifs’ tends to have a crippling effect of Christians’ outlook and practice. But we’re not called to live in fear; we’re called to live in faith one day at a time.” Dietrich Bonhoeffer adds,  “The self-tormenting and hopeless question regarding the purity of one’s motives, the suspicious observation of oneself, the glaring and fatiguing light of incessant consciousness, all these have nothing to do with the commandment of God, which grants liberty to live and to act.”

But there’s another spin, too, courtesy of C.S. Lewis, “It is a remarkable fact that on this subject Heaven and Hell speak with one voice…. What matters, what Heaven desires and Hell fears, is precisely that further step, out of our depth, out of our own control.” You never do know where it will take you.

While the future is unknown to us, it’s not unknown to God. You’re reading this because you believe there’s something God wants made known. And for that to happen, the first person he’s going to have to show at least part of that to is you. That thought should frighten you. Therefore, we need to get past our own fears of the unknown and trust that God knows the way he’s taking us. This week is about taking a step forward somehow, and discovering why, despite the fears and uncertainty we might have, that if this is God’s vision, it’s all worth it. So let’s begin.

Since this is our third session on the matter, we’re going to look at three examples this week, so get that additional tab ready. (Don’t worry; no more upping the ante after this.) And since we’ve already put some of our fears on the table, let’s begin to examine the fears we might have about what God’s calling us to, and how we might get past them. And let’s start with an example that few of us would willingly choose. It’s in  Jeremiah 20:7-18.

• What emotions and reactions does Jeremiah experience here?
• Let’s me just ask this: How can one person possibly be feeling all these things at once? How would you explain it?
• Where’s the “fire in [your] bones” right now? In other words: What would you attempt for God even if you knew you’d fail over and over? And where does the vision you’re exploring fit into that?

A big part of recognizing a God-given vision is realizing, “I can’t not do this.” Jeremiah went the distance on a mission that looked like a failure to everyone else, and even to Jeremiah himself. But Jeremiah obeyed God, and even praised God in the midst of his despair, and by doing so he gave an entire nation an opportunity to turn around.

More often, when God gives a vision, He also provides a happier ending, even though there’s often huge obstacles to overcome. So let’s look at a much more successful—but no less scary—example that takes place more than 100 years after Jeremiah’s attempt, in Nehemiah 1:1–2:8/

• How does Nehemiah seek God’s will—and do it—over the course of this passage?
• How strong of an indication is it that the things we’ve “wept… mourned, fasted, and prayed to the God of heaven” about are the things God wants us to do?
• And: What’s tougher for you—to weep, mourn, fast, and pray for God’s will (Nehemiah 1:4), or to wait from “late autumn” to “the following spring” (Nehemiah 1:1 and 2:1) for an answer?

There’s a certain point where it doesn’t matter how hard or impossible something looks—if it’s truly God’s call, then it’s a call we need to answer. We never fully know what God’s getting us into, and that’s often a good thing. Nonetheless, we should make every attempt to understand, as best we can, what God wants, and what it’s going to cost us. But once we’ve counted that cost, we need to say “never mind the cost” and embrace what God wants to accomplish. God wants to put things right in this world He’s created, and He wants us to be a part of that plan.

So, one more passage, this time from the New Testament—John 6:60-71.

• About what in your own life, right now, could you say, “Jesus, couldn’t you have made this a little easier to understand?”
• How would Peter’s response, “Lord to whom would we go?” help you move forward, even as you continue to work through those things you don’t understand?

You might still sorting through whether this vision you’re wrestling with is God’s or not—or, whether you’re meant to be a part of it. So let’s wrestle a little more:

• Which of today’s three passages feels closest to your situation right now? Why?
• If things don’t turn out the way you envisioned, what’s the benefit of following wherever Jesus takes you anyway?

The idea here isn’t to fast-track, or short-circuit, your wrestling process, but to think about and pray about what your next steps are. Because no matter what you decide, the future is still unknown, and you’ll still need step somewhere with God’s help. So, start walking….

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Born to Lea… SERVE.

Posted on October 31, 2011 by Carl Simmons

Think about a humbling or humiliating situation you’ve faced—for example, a layoff or demotion at work, something big you tried that failed in front of everyone, or even something embarrassing that happened when you were growing up. Besides “humbled” or “humiliated,” how else would you describe how you felt when this event was taking place? What good, if any, do you think came out of it?

Jesus talked about humility a lot. Perhaps surprisingly to some, most of His comments about it came in the context of leadership. But to lead as Jesus did, humility is critical. “One can so easily become too great to be used by God,” Corrie ten Boom once said. “One can never be too small for his service.”

Paul understood this about Jesus, and observed it in the leaders he was developing. Check out these passages from his letter to the church in Philippi:

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.

In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:

Who, being in very nature God,
   did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage;
rather, he made himself nothing
   by taking the very nature of a servant,
   being made in human likeness.
And being found in appearance as a man,
   he humbled himself
   by becoming obedient to death—
      even death on a cross!

Therefore God exalted him to the highest place
   and gave him the name that is above every name,
that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow,
   in heaven and on earth and under the earth,
and every tongue acknowledge that Jesus Christ is Lord,
   to the glory of God the Father….

I hope in the Lord Jesus to send Timothy to you soon, that I also may be cheered when I receive news about you. I have no one else like him, who will show genuine concern for your welfare. For everyone looks out for their own interests, not those of Jesus Christ. But you know that Timothy has proved himself, because as a son with his father he has served with me in the work of the gospel. I hope, therefore, to send him as soon as I see how things go with me. And I am confident in the Lord that I myself will come soon.

But I think it is necessary to send back to you Epaphroditus, my brother, co-worker and fellow soldier, who is also your messenger, whom you sent to take care of my needs. For he longs for all of you and is distressed because you heard he was ill.  Indeed he was ill, and almost died. But God had mercy on him, and not on him only but also on me, to spare me sorrow upon sorrow. Therefore I am all the more eager to send him, so that when you see him again you may be glad and I may have less anxiety. So then, welcome him in the Lord with great joy, and honor people like him, because he almost died for the work of Christ. He risked his life to make up for the help you yourselves could not give me (Philippians 2:3-11, 19-30, NIV).

The literal translation of the beginning of verse 7 is “he emptied himself.” Jesus emptied himself. He gave up everything for us. Let’s think about that a bit more, especially if this is the attitude each of us is supposed to have.

• What examples of Jesus’ humility do you see in Timothy and Epaphroditus?
• How do you nonetheless see these two men as leaders? How do you see God (or Paul) honoring their attitude here?
• Do you think we need to be totally emptied of ourselves before God can really work through us? Why or why not?
• If you truly had “the same attitudes that Christ Jesus had” (verse 5), what would look different?

Think about your family, those you work with, and even people you don’t know very well. What are some realistic, practical ways that you can follow Jesus’ example and serve them?

OK, that was a nice mental activity. But let’s take it further:

• Out of all the ideas you just thought of, which ones do you think you’d actually do?
• What makes you uncomfortable or unwilling to serve others? What can help you get past that?

Serving others isn’t always easy or comfortable, but Jesus showed us not only that we can do it, but to have joy while doing it. It can be hard to step out of our comfort zones, but everything Jesus did showed us that it’s worth it to follow His example.

Then the mother of Zebedee’s sons came to Jesus with her sons and, kneeling down, asked a favor of him.

“What is it you want?” he asked.

She said, “Grant that one of these two sons of mine may sit at your right and the other at your left in your kingdom.”

“You don’t know what you are asking,” Jesus said to them. “Can you drink the cup I am going to drink?”

“We can,” they answered.

Jesus said to them, “You will indeed drink from my cup, but to sit at my right or left is not for me to grant. These places belong to those for whom they have been prepared by my Father.”

When the ten heard about this, they were indignant with the two brothers. Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave—just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many” (Matthew 20:20-28, NIV)

• Be honest: In what ways are you like “the sons of Zebedee,” James and John (or their mom, for that matter)?
• What’s a situation right now where you’d considering serving more fully… as long as it was on your terms?
• What would take for you to let go of your “rights” and serve God however he wants you serve—in that situation or any other?

Ask God to help you use both your hands and your feet to lead the way He wants us to—by serving those around us—and that you’d not only have  His willingness but also His heart for the people He’s placed around us.

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Lay Down Your Bitterness — another piece

Posted on October 28, 2011 by Carl Simmons

Let’s circle back to last week’s “transgressors” thoughts and add a little something to them. Something else I’ve been noticing in the gospels recently, which I suspect you have too in some similar way….

The people we’d normally think of as transgressors (or whatever word we’d substitute for that)—those who commit sins of some obvious type of self-indulgence—aren’t let off the hook by Jesus, but are also offered his compassion. He calls them out on the carpet, but at the same time He calls them to something better. He understands these people are only trying to fill a void in their lives, however poorly or self-destructively. Thus, He points to Himself and says, “I’m what you’re looking for. Lay down all the rest of it and come follow Me.”

The people who truly anger Jesus aren’t those people I’ve just described. Rather, it’s the victimizers—those who corrupt others, who take advantage of children, those who hurt and damage others, especially those who do it under a veneer of self-righteousness. These are the people Jesus takes on constantly, who are subject to His anger and pronouncements of judgment. And not surprisingly, it’s these people who ultimately condemn Jesus to death—enabling Him to “be numbered with the transgressors.”

And yet, how does Jesus tell us to respond? “But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them. Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. Do to others as you would have them do to you.    

“If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that. And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners, expecting to be repaid in full. But love your enemies, do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High, because he is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful (Luke 6: 27-36).

In short: You don’t get to hold onto your hurt. You don’t get to allow it to fester into bitterness. You don’t get to hold it over their heads. Let Me handle it. You, lay it down.

And eventually, Jesus’ “head disciple” and our repeated example gets it too. First Peter is full of encouragement to live as Jesus told us to, and I’ll close with these for today. See you next week:

Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble. Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing (3:9-10)

But even if you should suffer for what is right, you are blessed. “Do not fear their threats; do not be frightened.” But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander (3:14-16)

Therefore, since Christ suffered in his body, arm yourselves also with the same attitude, because whoever suffers in the body is done with sin. As a result, they do not live the rest of their earthly lives for evil human desires, but rather for the will of God (4:1-2)

Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling (4:8-9)

Dear friends, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal that has come on you to test you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice inasmuch as you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when his glory is revealed. If you are insulted because of the name of Christ, you are blessed, for the Spirit of glory and of God rests on you (4:12-14)

However, if you suffer as a Christian, do not be ashamed, but praise God that you bear that name. For it is time for judgment to begin with God’s household; and if it begins with us, what will the outcome be for those who do not obey the gospel of God? (4:16-17)

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Truth Is More Useful Than Fiction

Posted on October 27, 2011 by Carl Simmons

I have to admit: Unless your name’s John Bunyan, fictional accounts of God’s hypothetical real-life work in the church has never really done it for me. (I have to wonder how I’d feel if I were to read In His Steps again, for that matter, being now 25+ years removed from being a brand-new Christian.) Thus, while the intentions here are good, the results…. well, not so much.

Gordon MacDonald. Going Deep: Becoming a Person of Influence. Softcover, 384p., $15.99. Thomas Nelson.

Plus, you’d read that title and buy it, never suspecting it was actually a work of fiction. Boo.

But again, let’s be fair: The intentions here are good. Gordon MacDonald wants to give us a picture of a church that’s embraced the importance of discipleship—of becoming “deep people,” to borrow his quote from Richard Foster’s Celebration of Discipline—and is willing to face the changes and challenges that come with that. So it’s coming from a good place.

The problem, for me, comes with the fact that it’s a fictional work, and a fairly predictable one at that. People throughout the church get the idea, challenges and speed bumps arrive and are of course ultimately overcome. Plus, there are two real-life characters here—MacDonald and his wife Gail. I didn’t read his last book, Who Stole My Church?, but I understand he uses the same device there. But again, the church itself is fictional. My gut cries out, why?

Not that it’s impossible that this book might inspire anyone to “go deeper,” but there are enough books out there based on real-life experience, with far less tidy plots—and, I hasten to add, more of that desired depth—that would ultimately prove more useful for anyone who really wants to see their church embrace a life of discipleship. At least a couple of them have been reviewed here, in fact. Thus, as I like to say: Go—fetch.

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That Was You, God… Right?

Posted on October 26, 2011 by Carl Simmons

When have you done something believing it’s what God wanted, then later realized it wasn’t? What happened? (Ignore the embarrassment you’re feeling right now—just process it.) Looking back now, what really motivated you?

It’s pretty easy to get caught up in our own dreams. For that reason, it can be  tough to know when, and how, God wants us to step out in faith. Sometimes we want something so badly that we can talk ourselves into believing it’s what God wants, too. And maybe it is what God wants. But maybe it isn’t. And maybe our desire isn’t in synch with God’s timing, even if it is what God wants.

“We naively think that the more we grow as Christians, the easier… to discern the will of God. But the opposite is often the case,” J. Oswald Sanders rightly observes in his book Spiritual Leadership. “God treats the mature leader as a mature adult, leaving more and more to… spiritual discernment…. The resulting perplexity adds to a leader’s pressure.”

This is all about that kind of discernment—of knowing whether this vision we have is really God’s as well. It’s tricky stuff. So let’s do our best to check our own desires at the door and discover what God wants.

Last Wednesday, we looked at a “case study” from the Bible, to understand how others before us have walked out the vision God’s given them. Let’s go ahead and look at two examples this week. Get that new tab open, look at Judges 6:34-40 and 1 Samuel 3:1-19, then think about this:

• How did Gideon and Samuel (and Eli, for that matter) figure out whether it was really God who was speaking?
• Would you say any of them showed a lack of faith—or, were making wrong demands of God? Why or why not?
• Think again about your missteps from earlier. What’s different between the approaches taken in these passages, and what you did?
• Look once more at Gideon’s example. When is it OK to “put out a fleece,” and when are we just trying to “fleece” ourselves into doing something that’s not really God’s idea (or get out of doing something that is)?

It’s important to figure out early whether this thing we’re praying about and talking about really is from God—or, for that matter and entirely likely, whether it’s both you and God, flesh and spirit, mixed together right now. It’s critical that we stop to figure out what’s God and what’s us, because once things get real, we’re almost certainly going to find ourselves disagreeing with God on some things.

And guess what? God’s right.

So when that happens, you’ll need to remember which parts of this vision are truly God’s, so you’re able to keep on trusting Him when you don’t understand what’s going on. “This one clear command would redefine you…. On those days when things were dark or difficult, you would at least know you were doing what you were called to do. That clarity… while a great burden, would be a great gift to us,” Brian Sanders (no relation to Oswald) puts it in Life After Church: God’s Call to Disillusioned Christians.

So right now, think through these questions. Take as long as you need. Ask yourself:

• As I’m pursuing this vision, am I sensing God revealing more about the things he truly cares about?
• Will this vision, once it’s realized, reveal more about God to others, or just more about me?
• Which parts of this vision were clearly not my idea (even if I’m excited about the idea now)?
• Have I tried letting go of this idea, only to find God bringing it up again?
• Would I still want this to happen even if someone else did it—or even if I did it and someone else got the credit?

One more question: What do you need right now, if anything, to be really certain that this vision you’re pursuing is really God’s idea? If you’re certain, why are you certain?

You might believe it with all your strength. You might still have doubts, too, and that’s OK—sometimes being obedient to God means staying put until you’re sure it’s what God wants. Thank God right now for wherever it is you’re at. Ask Him to help you discover what His will truly is for you in the weeks to come, and that your certainty and confidence is in Him, no matter where He leads them. May you move forward, in the path and at the pace God’s chosen for you.

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Who Are You… Really?

Posted on October 24, 2011 by Carl Simmons

I’d like you answer our title question right now. Who are you and what are you about?

There’s one catch, though: You can’t mention what you do. No mention of jobs, hobbies, volunteer work—any kind of accomplishment or activity. Go!

So, how’d you do?

How does telling people what you do help them understand who you really are? How doesn’t it?Let’s have a re-do: If you wanted people to know just one thing about you right now—with no restrictions on what you could say—what would it be?

We’re going to spend much of the next several Mondays discovering how God’s made each of us, and what He’s made each of us for. That’s right; we’re gonna get into the spiritual-gifts thang. Before we go there, however, we’re going to spend some time  realizing who we already are in Jesus. As we come to understand who we are in Jesus more and more, His life can flow more easily from us into everything else we do—even when we’re not consciously trying to serve Him.

So let’s discover more about who we really are in Jesus. And let’s start with what the Bible says about us. Note what the following passages say about who you are in Jesus. Then reflect on the questions that follow:

• John 15:15-16
• Romans 8:14-17
• Romans 8:31-39
• 2 Corinthians 5:16–6:2
• Ephesians 1:5-14
• Ephesians 2:4-10
• 1 Peter 2:9-10
• 2 Peter 1:3-4

• What encourages you about these verses?
• Truthfully: What things that God is telling you here do you still have a hard time believing? Why?
• How does—or could—knowing who you are in Jesus affect every other part of your life? Try to come up with some practical examples.

If you haven’t seen the movie Chariots of Fire, you’ve at least heard the Vangelis theme song (and/or the scene to the right) parodied endless number of times. Eric Liddell was a celebrated Scottish runner and missionary. In this clip, he’s trying to decide whether he should participate in the 1928 Olympics or go back into the missions field in China (where he would ultimately die in an internment camp near the end of World War II). Watch it up to the 1:37 mark, then think about this:

• Do you normally look at “God’s work” Jennie’s way or Eric’s? How so?
• Be honest: How much do you “feel [God’s] pleasure” in your everyday life? Why do think that is (or isn’t)?

You have searched me, LORD,
   and you know me.
You know when I sit and when I rise;
   you perceive my thoughts from afar.
You discern my going out and my lying down;
   you are familiar with all my ways.
Before a word is on my tongue
   you, LORD, know it completely.
You hem me in behind and before,
   and you lay your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
   too lofty for me to attain.

Where can I go from your Spirit?
   Where can I flee from your presence?
If I go up to the heavens, you are there;
   if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.
If I rise on the wings of the dawn,
   if I settle on the far side of the sea,
even there your hand will guide me,
   your right hand will hold me fast.
If I say, “Surely the darkness will hide me
   and the light become night around me,”
even the darkness will not be dark to you;
   the night will shine like the day,
   for darkness is as light to you.

 For you created my inmost being;
   you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
   your works are wonderful,
   I know that full well.
My frame was not hidden from you
   when I was made in the secret place,
   when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
Your eyes saw my unformed body;
   all the days ordained for me were written in your book
   before one of them came to be.
How precious to me are your thoughts,God!
   How vast is the sum of them!
Were I to count them,
   they would outnumber the grains of sand—
   when I awake, I am still with you (Psalm 139, NIV).

• How would believing that God really is everywhere you are help you live out your faith?
• What—or who—could help you to remember who you are in Jesus, and help you stretch your circle of influence wider?

“If there’s anything in life that we should be passionate about, it’s the gospel… passionate in thinking about it, dwelling about it, rejoicing in it, allowing it to color the way we look at the world,” C.J. Mahaney says in the The Cross Centered Life. May that become our passion as well. 

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